Uplifting and encouraged words spoken bless you and motivate you to keep on going. Being a widow forever changes your life. I know some may think, come on, time has gone by, get a life, stop talking about being a widow. I can’t help it. If you don’t want to read about it, feel free to forego this post.
I am living a new life, a life without my dear husband and best friend by my side. Life will never be the same, it has drastically changed. Maybe some of what I go through may help other widows. We widows do the best we can and if we believe in God, we trust Him to fill the void, and we know we’ll see our husbands again one day and what a joyous reunion that will be.
Tomorrow makes 32 months since my love went to his heavenly home. He is in a much better place. Each day for me is one of learning acceptance, and moving forward.
Gardening has been a big part of my life, and is a huge blessing for me in my grieving. I told my husband many, many years ago that I would rather have growing plants than be given a dying bouquet. (Although, I have to admit it was a real pleasure to receive bouquets from him now and then.) My gardens, done on a shoe string, and having more than their fair share of weeds, ‘surround me with love’.
When we first got computers in the late 90’s, my husband thought of the name ‘FlowerLady’ for my online name, because I was always out in among the flowers. (The name fits and many call me that instead of my real name, which is fine with me.) I hope he can see what I’ve done since he’s been gone. It hasn’t been easy to forge ahead, but that’s what one has to do. With a grateful heart to God for His many blessings, and for being with me every step of this journey, I continue on.
Some days I think what is the use. This, that or the other thing just isn’t as much fun or pleasurable without my DH here with me. My heart aches, sometimes tears flow. Then God gives little gifts of encouraging words from others, and my heart lifts.
Yesterday morning was one of those times in person. I had my straw hat on, gardening clothes, and had just taken a piece of rotting lumber out to the curb for pick up. A lady ‘walker’ was passing by, we said hello and she stopped and said “I admire your place every time I walk by. (I’m on her 2 mile walking route every day.) She said “It’s like Shangri-la.” I thanked her and told her that I enjoy gardening. We chatted a bit more then said goodbye.
I had to look up Shangri-la when I came inside because I wasn’t exactly sure what it meant. I just knew that we had worked at creating a little haven here.
~ Shangri-la is synonymous with any earthly paradise ~ a permanently happy land, isolated from the outside world. ~
Even though this little haven isn’t permanently happy, there is joy, peace and love here. There is creativity, color, scents and there is music. I am thankful for all that I have been blessed with.
Today FedEx made a delivery and the lady said something like ‘Oh my, you wouldn’t even know this place exists by just riding down the road.’ Anytime people visit they say it’s an oasis in here. I keep working at it, enjoying the process even though sometimes the work can be grueling.
You folks don’t realize how much your kinds words mean to me and I thank you for taking the time out of your busy days to leave comments or send notes.
Yesterday I worked for 4 hours outside, with a smile on my face, sweat dripping. I weed wacked, and painted 1 of 4 wrought iron chairs. Today I painted a second wrought iron chair, in a purple shade, and also another shade of purple went on the door trim of the shed out back.
I’ve been inspired to keep doing what I’m doing, living my life as best I can and know my dear husband wants me to continue to be the happy person that I am. I love him more every day and look forward to being with him again.
So, remember, that kind, encouraging words can do wonders for others. We all need them and we should all give them too. We don’t know that the time we say them are just what the person needed in his/her life right then.
"Our challenge is to face up heroically to the world as it is and do our very best to make the most of our lives. To strive to live each day with serenity and courage." Wilferd A. Peterson
Have a nice weekend.